The Four Agreements Domestication

In the first part of this 2-part video, we learn more about the «domestication» of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As little children, it is our true nature to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we should be, and because it`s not normal for us to be what we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t. When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves according to agreements we have never chosen. The four agreements help us break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. If we accept an agreement, we believe it unconditionally. Our belief systems and personalities consist of thousands of these little chords. We surrender to these convictions. In this process, we become someone who is different from our natural self. We lose our normal, innate tendencies in this process of domestication. That`s why adults behave differently than children — adults may be more efficient and productive, but also less cheerful, curious, and free.

Commit to always doing your best and giving yourself a «break and reset» whenever it`s necessary to regroup. You will break a huge spell of self-judgment that has exhausted your freedom and deprived you of the joy of the present. Showing that compassion in the first place motivates you to stay aware and improve your 1-3 agreement compliance skills. It takes consistent exercise and concentration to slow down and see who we are and who we are, how we show ourselves to others and to ourselves in life. As simple as they may seem, these four agreements are a lifelong work to be accomplished, with two steps back for the three steps forward. But even if it is imperfectly practiced, the effect is still nothing less than transformative. The secret to deciphering your journey to personal freedom is wrapped in a dream, locked in our minds, in unconscious stories and agreements that were made early in our lives – the central conviction behind the Four Accords. This is what Ruíz calls domestication and the «dream of the planet» that creates our own suffering. This dream never ceases to tarnish our minds. To gain your freedom and become a modern Toleque spiritual warrior, an artist of the mind, internalize these four chords.

You will get rid of the conditioning of your childhood and your culture. It`s the greatest gift you can give yourself, a chance to let go of suffering forever and always make the decision to be happy. This, in turn, becomes your gift to the world. From this place within yourself, you will find freedom. As children, we are trained by this process of domestication, just like dogs. We are rewarded for doing what mom and dad expect of us…